THE SEARCH IS OVER

Title: Survivor - The Search Is Over


How can I convince you what you see is real
Who am I to blame you for doubting what you feel
I was always reachin', you were just a girl I knew
I took for granted the friend I have in you

I was living for a dream, loving for a moment
Taking on the world, that was just my style
Now I look into your eyes
I can see forever, the search is over
You were with me all the while

Can we last forever, will we fall apart
At times it's so confusing, these questions of the heart
You followed me through changes and patiently you'd wait
Till I came to my senses through some miracle of fate

I was living for a dream, loving for a moment
Taking on the world, that was just my style
Now I look into your eyes
I can see forever, the search is over
You were with me all the while

Now the miles stretch out behind me
Loves that I have lost
Broken hearts lie victims of the game
Then good luck it finally struck
Like lightning from the blue
Every highway leading me back to you

Now at last I hold you, now all is said and done
The search has come full circle
Our destinies are one
So if you ever loved me
Show me that you give a damn
You'll know for certain
The man I really am

I was living for a dream, loving for a moment
Taking on the world, that was just my style
Then I touched your hand, I could hear you whisper
The search is over, love was right before my eyes

Jeffrey, sweety this is for you... I love you..

Long Distance Relationships Videos

I like this song, I think I can use this as a song for my special someone.You are not alone, we are together. forever.




Call Me On Your Way Back Home lyrics

Oh baby why do I miss you like I do
Oh I miss my sweet
And the birds all singing blue
And white

And white
Call me on your way back home dear
Cause I miss you

Honey I ain't nothing new
Oh baby why did I treat you like I did
Honey I was just a kid
Bubblegum on my shoe

But you love me and I love you
Call me on your way back home dear
Cause I miss you
And I just wanna die without you
Oh I just wanna die without you
Yeah I just wanna die without you

.....(I like this song too. Very nice, relaxing and has a very touching lyrics).



This song by Norah Jone "Turned me On" is a nice song, very relaxing and inspiring.

Long Distance Love Quotes

Words that inspire real long distance relationship couples

"Missing someone gets easier everyday because even though you are one day further from the last time you saw them, you are one day closer to the next time you will." Added by Lehxi


"Distance is not for the fearful, it is for the bold. It's for those who are willing to spend a lot of time alone in exchange for a little time with the one they love. It's for those knowing a good thing when they see it, even if they don't see it nearly enough..." Added by Michelle


"If ever there is tomorrow when we're not together. There is something you must always remember. You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. But the most important thing is, even if we're apart... I'll always be with you." Added by Michelle


"The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart." - Helen Keller
Added by Liz


"I'll hold you in my heart, till I can hold you in my arms." Added by Sarah


"Distance means so little when someone means so much." Added by Sarah


"And as days go by, the memories remain. I wait for you. As days go by I swear I'll try. Until I die. Anything for you." Added by EJ


"We are the perfect couple, we're just not in the perfect situation." Added by Erin


"Sometimes I get so mad that your not here I want to throw you in oncoming traffic, but then I member I'd probably kill myself trying to save you." Added by Sommer


"Distance never separates two hearts that really care, for our memories span the miles and in seconds we are there. But whenever I start feeling sad, because I miss you, I remind myself how lucky I am to have someone so special to miss." Added by Erin


"I'll turn my back and walk away, away from the pain. Scream it loud, drown it out by the sound of the rain. Listen up, I've had enough all this waiting. I need you more right now than I ever did!" - Hawthorne Heights "Somewhere In Between"
Added by Aloin


"Love is strong yet delicate.
It can be broken.
To truly love is to understand this.
To be in love is to respect this.
- Stephen Packer
Added by Sandra


"If the only place where I could see you was in my dreams, I'd sleep forever." Added by Justine


"True love doesn't mean being inseparable; it means being separated and nothing changes." Added by Justine


"Distance is to love like wind is to fire...it extinguishes the small and kindles the great!" Added by soulinme


"I'd rather fight with you, than kiss anyone else." Added by Megan


"You live too far away.
Your voice rings like a bell anyway.
Don't give up your independence, unless it feels so right.
Nothing good comes easily, sometimes you've got to fight."
"Amber" by 311
Added by Johnny


"Guys are like stars... There are a million of them... but only ONE can make your dreams come true!" Added by Corian


"The longest period of time is waiting for something or someone you truly want." Added by Erin


"Nothing in this world worth having comes easy." Added by Kat


"When you feel alone, just look at the spaces between your fingers, remember that in those spaces you can see my fingers locked with yours forever." Added by Swati


"Behind every stong soldier, there is an even stronger woman who stands behind him, supports him, and loves him with all her heart." Added by Corian


"Though space restraint us from being together, but one thing I am sure of,there are no spaces in my heart that restraining me from loving you..." Added by Glaiza


"No great love ever came without great struggle." Added by Alex


"If there's a heaven out there somewhere, it's a place where we never have to say goodbye." Added by Rosemarie


"Some people search for their entire lives for what we have and never find it. I won't give up. I'll fight for you." Added by Stephanie


"What lies behind us and what lies before us are small matters compared to what lies within us." - Ralph Waldo Emerson
Added by Nicole


"And ever has it been known that love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation." - Khalil Gibran
Added by Michelle


"I don't miss you and you alone - I miss you and me together."
Added by Gia


"The thought of being with you tomorrow gives me the strength to go on today."
Added by Gia


"Love finds a way."
Added by Rick


Wherever you go
Whatever you do
I will be right here waiting for you
Whatever it takes
Or how my heart breaks
I will be right here waiting for you
- Richard Marx "Right Here Waiting"

Added by Heather


"I carry your heart with me (I carry it in my heart)" - E.E. Cummings

Added by Eleanor

What Kind of Partner Are You in Your Relationship?

First, let's discuss three popular kinds of partnerships that people settle into while in a relationship. The first one is called the father/daughter relationship. In this kind of relationship, the man plays the role that you would normally see reserved for a parent. For example, the husband might decide that his wife will be paid an allowance as oppose to having equal access to their money.

In fact this man might go so far as to believe that it is his money that he is sharing with her and not theirs. Another example is the man who needs to control her social life and or network of friends. Much like a father, men can be very protective of their daughters.

Women, also, will fall into the role of a mother/son relationship. They will nick-pick their husbands to no end to get him to do and behave as they would have him. They cater to his needs and wants much like a real mother does for her dependent son. His clothes are washed and ironed, his meals are made for him, and the home operates around his mood.

The second type of relationship that couples adopt is the brother/sister relationship. This happens when you have two people who have just about everything in common besides physical desire and romance. Maybe they started off believing that they were love mates but over time have realized that they do better as friends. What little attraction that's left is nothing more than an appreciation of common interests.

The third type of relationship that partners imitate is the kind that is found within a healthy relationship between two healthy individuals who are not only soul mates but also good companions. This kind of partnership is referred to as the partner/partner relationship. Women and men within these types of relationships have their own identity. Their identity is not a threat to their partner nor does their partner see it necessary to control their expression.

They operate from a frame of reference where love and romance is a personal exploration between two aware individuals who have some pertinent things in common with a desire to share mutual emotional, physical, and spiritual experiences. This type of partner/partner relationship doesn't feed off the traditions of the past, how mom and dad behaved, or what one sees in the movies.

So, what kind of mate are you? Are you in a relationship where you're the daughter, the mother, or the sister? Are you emotionally and financially being handled by a man who is the father, the brother, or the son? Maybe you're none of these characters. Perhaps you're your own person and within a relationship you can call your own.

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How to Get a Girlfriend - Using Super Powerful Girlfriend Getter Strategies

Dude, if you feel that you're the only one wanting to find a quality girlfriend, you are sorely mistaken. There are a lot more men who are dreaming of getting a girlfriend out there, and you're not alone at all! However, what sets you apart from those other guys is your willingness to read more about the finer points of finding a girlfriend easily. The fact is, you can improve your chances of getting through to that special lady if you use these simple methods that deliver astounding results quickly...

How to Start Looking for a Girlfriend? Use These Strategies

First Step. Skill Development. Attracting and ultimately dating women is not that easy if you don't have a lot of confidence in you. Building real self confidence means learning how to approach, creating compelling conversations and getting the skills needed to develop rapport with girls.

Second Step. Describe your IDEAL. Dating a quality girl starts when you know the traits you are looking for in a girlfriend. Discover the EXACT type of girl you want to date so you can meet her. Take this time to reflect and enumerate the characteristics of your ideal girl. With these in mind, you can sift through the random and find that particular girl you want.

Third Step. Determine where your ideal girl hangs out. You already know her traits or at least some of them. Now, you have an idea where to start looking. If she's the sporty type, you can bet that she's in a gym somewhere, learning yoga or working out on the treadmill. If she's a food lover like you, you want to hang out in culinary schools and take cooking lessons yourself!

Fourth Step. Approach your type frequently. Have you heard it said that finding women you like is a game of numbers? The more girls you approach, the more likely you will find the one for you. Don't worry about rejection, just keep at it!

Fifth Step. Hypnotize her. There is a method to build instant rapport with a woman, and it involves hypnosis. In particular, there's a technique we call fractionation, which gets the job done fast. Once you get this right, she will be falling for you like a ton of bricks in a matter of minutes.

But before you use hypnosis techniques, you must heed this warning...

Fractionation is considered as a 'dark art' tactic which is the basis of hypnosis-based seduction, and while controversial, it is known to be one of the most effective tactics ever invented by underground seductionists.

It is described in a step-by-step system in the Deadly Seduction Manuscript (http://www.DeadlySeduction.com).

These psychology tactics are highly unconventional techniques that are used by the secret elite in the seduction community. Use at your own risk. I personally vouch for the effectiveness of these tactics, but care must be taken as they could be outright dangerous in the hands of the unscrupulous.

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The Break Up

Break ups, unfortunately for some of us an inevitable part of life, your lucky (some will say) if you have never ever experienced one. However I now believe that to understand your self fully you need to experience a break up where you have truly loved and you feel as though the world will stop without that person in your life. Let me explain, one year ago I split up with the love of my life, we had been together for seven years in total.

The year leading to the split she fell pregnant accidentally; however we were both very excited about the situation and started preparing to bring a baby into this world. We decorated and baby proofed our house and ensured that our finances and everything would be set to cope with a new life. Unfortunately early into the pregnancy she suffered from a miscarriage, apparently very common for women during their first pregnancy. As you can imagine we were both devastated by the news and I tried my hardest to be a rock for her and give my full support.

Experiencing a miscarriage with a partner is a strange thing and is still a very taboo subject to talk about, even though it is apparently very common. Friends, family and colleagues don't know what to say and generally try to avoid the subject at all cost. Occasionally you will get the wisened mother who will pull you to one side and say "I suffered a couple of miscarriages before I had my first born so try not to worry" it was comforting to know that we were not alone and that there was hope. The miscarriage unfortunately instead of driving us closer drove us apart as she found it hard to recover from the trauma.

A few months passed and finally we began to get back to our normal selves and our relationship was recovering. Then one week before my 29th birthday, I received a call from my sister "Dad's had a heart attack!"

We rushed to the hospital and to the intensive care unit where my father was being treated. I found my father very weak from the major heart attack he had suffered, but still alive, there was still hope. The doctors advised how serious this situation was and that they would do everything they could to save him.

For one of the longest weeks of my life my fiancé, my two sisters, my mum and I all crowded into a waiting room in the hospital, taking it in turns to visit and comfort my father, all the time waiting for further news from the doctors.

My birthday came and no one was in the mood for celebrating as Dads condition had deteriorated over the week. The doctors asked to talk to all of us and gave us the news we feared, there was no more they could do and that we would have to turn off my fathers life support machine that evening. We all said our goodbyes to my father, I told him I loved him and thanked him for everything he had done us. My father died that evening, we were all devastated.

I was very close to my father and considered him a best friend; my fiancé who lost her father when she was young was also amazingly close to my dad, so we were both reeling from his death. She became my rock as I struggled to cope with his loss.

Christmas came and was strange without Dad, a few months passed and I was still struggling. Coming home from work I would get off the train and burst into tears during the walk home, I missed him immensely.

Then shortly after Valentines Day my fiancé said we needed to speak and broke the news that she no longer loved me or wanted to be with me, I was devastated and could not figure out what to do. I was grieving Dad and the loss of our child and would now lose the only person left in my life that I truly loved and that understood me; I wanted to end my life there and then.

My mind was on overdrive, all the previous events compacted into one and I now had to also think about moving out, my finances and how my life had changed forever, I felt physically and emotionally crushed I had nothing left to give and wanted the pain to stop. I cried for a few days (I'm not normally the crying type I may add) until, I guess, my survival mechanism kicked in and I started to speak to friends and family.

My friends and family helped but I didn't think they truly understood what I was going through, I was searching for answers. I tried counseling for a few sessions but again did not feel as though it helped as much as I needed.

At a loss I turned to Google for answers and typed in 'heart break and loss', so many sites appeared all with help and advice on how to recover from break ups and grieving. I was touched by reading other peoples stories and knowing that I was not alone, at times like these you can feel very isolated. The world seems to keep on turning when your own is unrecognisable. I buried myself in these sites for weeks and learn a lot about the grieving process and how we deal with major change and trauma, it really helped me.

Looking back I think my fiancé was right to have ended our relationship as I think the love had gone before she fell pregnant and that I was just settling for what I thought was a good relationship. The unfortunate circumstances acted as the catalyst to test the strength or relationship and it crumbled, it wasn't meant to be.

Going through this whole experience has changed me and made me a stronger person. It has also forced me to accept change and in doing so has made me more open minded to future change. I also now know not to just settle in a relationship for the sake of it, life's to short to just settle.

A year later and I am happier than I have been for a very long time, I am more outgoing than ever, have lost about 3 stone from the gym and have also accepted voluntary redundancy from my job in the city, im off to become a snowboarding instructor in Canada, life could not be more different than a year ago.

The events that happened to me are all part and parcel of life and its how we deal with these events that make us who we are. We will all suffer traumatic and turbulent times in life, but life does get better no matter how dark the path may become.

As a result I have started my own website http://www.over-it.co.uk/ to help people like myself deal with the emotional and practical side of break ups, other people's stories helped me immensely and I thank all of those kind people for being so open and frank about their lives, I hope I can help others in the same way.

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How to Get Back With Your Ex - Some Simple Ideas

Knowing "How to get back with your ex" is necessary if you aren't ready to call it a day with the love that escaped from you. You were not prepared for the relationship to finish. Be it a relationship where you were dating, or a marriage that terminated after a messy divorce, there may always be a second chance. So you want to know "How to get back with your ex".

If love really existed in the first place, it may still be there. You can't just forget about the previous errors but you can give the love a second chance. When you have both taken a step back from the errors and taken some time to reflect on things it may be possible to come together again, however, you will certainly not wish to act too quickly.

You must be able to resolve the problems that caused the relationship to fracture in the first place. You must both of you work at the problems; if you don't succeed finding solutions you will not get back together for very long.

Where it was a single event that caused the fracture, you must either learn how to accept what happened or find out how to fix the problem.

Where the problem was one of cheating this may be difficult to recover from. Where trust is broken it is difficult and slow to get back. It takes a long time to overcome a deception and there must also be a reason to be believe it will not be repeated if trust is eventually to return.

Some group therapy may be useful in this case.

You may be sad but you must never give the impression that you are desperate to get them to return. Show that you have sorted things out in your head. As much as is possible, show that you are confident. Your ex will see you as an exciting person and they will likely want to get back with you again.

Above all you must be sure in your own mind that you are really doing the right thing for yourself in wanting to get back with your ex. Are you sure that life for you will be better with them than if you had moved on elsewhere. There is no point in making a huge effort working out "How to get back with your ex" only that the relationship falls apart again soon afterwards and your efforts are wasted.

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How to Tell If Someone is Lying By Looking at Their Eye Patterns

Are you being lied to? Are you being cheated on? You can put all of that to an end just by taking the time to learn this pivotal information about eye patterns. NLP research has proven that every direction your eyes look while your speaking, or being spoken to are being dictated by the subconscious mind. You can use this information to know how to tell if someone is lying.

Many people make the common mistake of accusing people of being liars solely based on the fact that they are not making eye contact with them. This could be true, but most likely is not. "If a person does not maintain eye contact while you are talking to them, they are lying." This is a myth that's been around for a while, and should be debunked. Their could actually be several reasons a person does not maintain eye contact. For example, they have social disabilities, or they can just be nervous. Anyways, here is what all the eye patterns mean.

To the right- When a persons eyes shift to the right, they are constructing an auditory thought. (your left)

Up and to the left- visually remembered image (your right)

Up and to the right- visually constructed image (your left)

To the left- auditory memory

Down and to the right- creating a feeling or sensory impression.

Down and to the left- a person will look this way when they "talk to themselves"

You can use this information to help you catch a liar because typically if someone looks to the right, they are creating a lie, and if they are looking to the left, they are remembering something. While someone is telling a story, they will usually look up and to the left, or up and to the right. Try these eye patterns yourselves, by testing them on your peers, friends, or family! All you have to do is create some questions. For example. If i wanted to test the eye pattern "up and to the right" you could devise a question like this: "Can you imagine a cow with a pigs head?" This forces them to visually construct an image in their head.

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Is Your Relationship Toxic? 4 Signs Your Relationship is Harmful to You

Most people enter into relationships hoping for a mutually satisfying, loving, and respectful union. Unfortunately, some individuals come into relationships with personal issues that are destructive to the other partner, and to the relationship in general. This can create a toxic situation that can cause a great deal of harm and damage to the affected partner. Here are 4 signs that your relationship is toxic:

1. There is abuse occurring in the relationship. Physical abuse or the threat of it is very serious and often escalates, and it is important to gain professional guidance from a domestic violence counselor if you are experiencing this type of abuse. Emotional abuse is sometimes harder to pinpoint, but is nevertheless very damaging over time. If you are feeling inferior, incapable, or questioning reality when you interact with your partner, this can be a sign that you are experiencing controlling, critical, or emotionally abusive behavior directed toward you.

2. Your partner is caught up in untreated addiction and refuses help. If your partner is focused primarily on getting the next drink or high, he or she is unlikely to be fully available in the relationship. In addition, it is often tempting to try to save or fix the addict by trying to control the drinking or drug use, and by preventing the addict from facing the consequences of his or her actions. Unfortunately, this only perpetuates the cycle and the negative dynamic of the addict and partner. The addict has no motivation to change if someone is keeping him or her from facing the results of the using, and the partner often grows increasingly resentful and caught up in the various crises of the addict, including job instability and potential legal issues.

3. There is repeated and/or ongoing infidelity in the relationship. A relationship can be saved after an affair if both partners work hard to recommit and establish better communication and accountability. However, an ongoing breach of trust does not allow this foundational piece of a relationship to be rebuilt, and the continuing betrayals can be very damaging to the self worth and esteem of the other partner.

4. Your partner has a personality disorder such as narcissism or sociopathy. These disorders involve fundamental hard wiring of the personality and do not change at the core. Character traits such as entitlement, a sense of inflated self worth, a lack of empathy or remorse for wrongdoing, and poor impulse control can result in a lengthy record of very destructive and hurtful behaviors.

Are you interested in addressing your life challenges from a holistic standpoint, assessing the physical, emotional, and relationship components?

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6 Rules of Relationships

here is not sure formula for a happy relationship. The success of the relationship is dependent on the people in it. A relationship defines the moral fiber of the people involved and magnifies not the individual but their shared characteristics. Although there are no absolute ingredients that will make a relationship lasting, there are some rules that will help guide you before engaging in any relationship.

I. Relationships are never limited. A happy relationship does not mean that you continue to stay together even if it taking away the best of you. A happy relationship is self-nurturing, brings out your best potential and unselfish. One must not treat every relationship as their last hope. It should be enjoyed.

II. Realize that you are a person with individuality. You must not make your life depend on your partner. A relationship must be shared together and not become the basis of your existence. Retain your self and never lose it in the course of the whole relationship.

III. Study your relationship patterns. Do not be stuck in choosing the same kind of person over and over again. Evaluate past relationships and identify what went wrong. Some qualities may not be right for you. Choose the person wisely and be in love for the right reasons.

IV. Do not hide your feelings. Develop open communication. It is the only way to ensure you do not get into misunderstandings. Be vocal but tactful in expressing your feelings and at the same time be sensitive to your partner's

V. Be wary of the signs. True and Fake affection are easy to perceive. If your partner shows signs of not being true, do not be afraid to confront the truth. It might save you weeks, months or even years of misery.

VI. Accept that not all relationships last. There will be times when you might encounter a failed relationship. Cry and be over with it. Do not over indulge in your misery but instead move on. Use the experience and knowledge that you gathered in your past to do better the next time

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Random Questions to Ask Your Boyfriend

Looking for random questions to ask your boyfriend? Although you may ask your boyfriend questions everyday, there are deeper, more meaningful things you probably want to know. Don't be afraid to ask him what's on your mind. And if you aren't sure how to put your questions into words, use these random questions to ask your boyfriend as a starting point.

What would you spend your time doing on an ideal day?
Asking them this lets you know what they really enjoy doing and what they value most. If you really focus on their answer and analyze it then you will learn a lot about them.

What is your ultimate career goal?
Whether they are still in school or at a secure job, they should have a plan to accomplish more. Finding out where they want to go in their career will give you insight into where they will likely end up. It is important that they have a plan.

How would you describe your father?
As much as they may hate to admit it, your boyfriend is likely to become this description of his father. Occasionally someone breaks the mold and turns out completely different, but it's certainly something to keep in mind.

Who is the one historical figure that you admire most?
Again, this will give you an idea of their values and morals. If you don't know much about the person they name, do some research and find out what they accomplished and stood for.

Describe me in five words.
This is important because this lets them know how they feel about you without putting the pressure on them to actually tell you how they feel.

What is the one thing you wish you could change in your past?
This will not only let you know something that has happened in their past that they regret, but it will also let you know what area you can support and lift them up.

These are just a few random questions to ask your boyfriend. Open communication is key to any successful relationship so never be afraid to ask him things. Don't be too pushy or act suspicious, but you can present these in a light, no-pressure environment so that they don't feel like they are on trial. Another thing you can do is space the time between the random questions to ask your boyfriend out so that he doesn't notice as much.

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Do Men Think Sex Means a Relationship? How to Tell What He's Thinking

It's a question often asked by women who are considering beginning a sexual relationship with a man: do men think sex means a relationship? If you've ever been hurt by a man who simply moved on without explanation after having sex with you a few times, you are probably anxious to know the answer. After all, you don't want to be hurt again.

Times have changed

In times past, it was safe to assume that when two people had sex it did mean a relationship. In those days, virginity was highly prized and it was assumed that couples would wait until marriage to have sex. Of course, that meant that some couples ended up getting married too young and just for the sex. In some ways, today's values translate into a better chance for the marriage since sexual tension is no longer a factor in a couple's decision to marry.

How to tell if your man sees sex as a relationship

The fact is, most modern men do not see sex as part of a relationship. While women tend to become emotionally involved when they have sex with a man, the same is not true for men. They tend to see sex as a physical act, completely separate from any emotional involvement with the partner.

If what you are looking for is a relationship, it is important to understand this difference and learn to recognize the signs that mean a guy is looking for a real relationship as well as sex. If he calls you frequently, finds reasons to spend time with you and lavishes attention on you when you're together, it is quite likely he wants a relationship.

On the other hand, if he calls you infrequently and late at night, you can be pretty sure he simply sees you as a friend with benefits. In that case, you will have to decide whether that is enough for you or if it is time to move on.

Test his intentions

If you want to know a guy's true intentions, it is usually a good idea to make him wait for sex until you've had a chance to get to know each other. Since it is usually not the case that men think sex means relationship, it is up to you to decide if and when you will begin a sexual relationship with your guy. That is, if you are interested in a serious and lasting relationship with him.Imagine what if you could make any man adore you, chase you, love you, and commit to you?

The #1 Secret of Great Relationships

Behind all the issues that separate an ordinary relationship from a great one, is one common factor. Behind all the truly helpful advice on improving your life together, there lies one key to a great relationship.

Many different kinds of problems can cause a relationship to fall apart. Physical or emotional abuse, addictions, cheating, jealousy, and neediness are just a few of the issues that can destroy a relationship. But once the many potentially disastrous problems have been avoided, what have you got? Perhaps a relationship that qualifies only as "pretty good." But what creates a really great relationship?

At the beginning, we are in relationship because we are attracted to the other person - we think they are sexy, smart, funny, whatever it is that we find appealing. But very quickly, the focus of the relationship turns to whether we feel appreciated. If we don't feel appreciated, we don't feel loved.

It is common for those entering into a relationship to hold an idealized image of how a perfect partner is supposed to act. Perhaps a man is supposed to open car doors. Perhaps a woman is supposed to wear a certain kind of underwear. The internal dialog goes something like this, "Jim (or Sally) is a wonderful person and loves me. After we're together, he will change because he loves me so much. He will stop wanting to hang out with his friends, watch football games, whatever." How can anyone feel appreciated when their loved one is wishing or hoping for them to change.

The greatest roadblock to a great relationship is trying to force a partner to change through bribes or threats. This classic human tendency is lampooned in the long-running off-Broadway musical comedy "I Love You, You're Perfect, Now Change." It's funny to watch other people go through the cycle of searching for the perfect mate, believing they have found that person, and than gradually attempting to remold the supposedly perfect partner. Unfortunately, in real life, this pattern is a cause of immense suffering.

I Love You Just the Way You Are

The number one secret of a great relationship is accepting our partner EXACTLY as they are. We cause ourselves untold misery whenever we believe our loved ones to be imperfect and try to change them.

To create a great relationship, say and mean, "I love you just the way you are." No pretense. No hoping for change. No thought that it used to be better, or might get better. Follow through by living into that sentiment every day.

Falling into the trap of thinking, "I wish you were different" or "Please change." is no way to show your love. Happiness lies in this number one rule of great relationships: Love and accept your partner exactly the way they are.

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Jonathan Lockwood Huie is an author of self-awareness books, including Simply An Inspired Life, Conari Press, September 2009. He has been dubbed "The Philosopher of Happiness" by those closest to him, in recognition of his on-going commitment to seeing Joy in all of life.

** Today is your day to dance lightly with life. It really is. - Jonathan Lockwood Huie **

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Dra. Vicki Belo and Hayden Kho Scandal

Here is the awaited scandal of all time. The very sensational scandal of Hayden Gates Scandal. I saw a scandal of Vicki and Hayden and I cannot stop myself laughing. It is cute for those who are loving each other. They do not mind their age. So what? If you love someone, you do not mind what other people will say. They do not know what makes you happy. For Vicki, good to know that you have broke with Hayden now. It is an eye opener for you that love should have limitations too. For Hayden, yes you are very gorgeous guy, hard to resist, (even me I am fantasizing that we can have scandal too.!! :-) ), that is a learning experience for you.

Twenty Questions....

MGA TAUHAN
Jorgh - Fresh grad. Kabarkada ni Janine.
Magtatrabaho bilang researcher sa isang financial firm

Janine - Commercial Model. Kabarkada ni Jigs. 2 years ahead kay Jigs.

TAGPO
Gabi. Sa isang kwarto ng isang beach resort. Naglalatag ng kumot si Jigs sa sahig habang inaayos ni Yumi ang kanyang higaan.

JANINE: Sige na, Jigs. Huwag ka nang magpaka-gentle man. Naaawa ako sayo e. Tabi na tayo sa kama.

JIGS: Hindi, okay lang ako dito.

JANINE: Huwag ka nang maarte. As if naman re-rapin kita no. Malaki naman itong kama e. Hatiin na lang natin sa gitna.

JIGS: Sure ka?

JANINE: Hindi mo naman siguro ako mamanyakin no?

JIGS: (Matatawa) Okay ka lang?

JANINE: Kung gusto mo, gamitin na lang natin iyang kumot na divider.

JIGS: Good idea.

Isasampay nila ang kumot mula sa kisame para mahati ang kama sa gitna. Magsesettle down ang dalawa. Ilalabas ni Jigs ang libro niya: "Puppy Love and other Stories" ni F. Sionil Jose. Si Yumi naman ay magpapatugtog ng Japanese Zen Music habang nagsa-zazen.

JANINE: Do you mind?

JIGS: No, go ahead. Im just reading.

Magsa-zazen si Yumi. Magbabasa si Jigs. Pareho silang di maka-concentrate. Papatayin ni Yumi ang CD player niya.

JANINE: I can't believe our friends.

JIGS: Oo nga e.

JANINE: Dapat ginagawa nila to sa mga bagong pasok sa barkada o kaya sa bagong...ay oo nga pala. Bagong graduate ka. Congrats.

JIGS: Thanks.

JANINE: So what're your plans?

JIGS: Kinukuha akong researcher sa ADB. Kinukuha rin ako ng BPI sa OTP nila.

JANINE: Wow naman. In demand.

JIGS: Di naman masyado. Who the hell invented this tradition anyway?

JANINE :(Matatawa) You won't believe it.

JIGS: Ikaw?

JANINE: Malay ko ba na mabibiktima rin ako nito balang-araw.

JIGS: So why did you start it?

JANINE: Wala ka pa sa tropa nun e. Freshman ka pa lang siguro noon. Wala lang. Napagtripan lang namin si Ronald. E may crush siya kay Meg. Noong unang beses magpunta rito ng barkada, sabi ko, magsimula kami ng tradition. Ilo-lottery namin ang pangalan ng mga lalaki at ng mga babae. Kung sino ang mabubunot, silang dalawa ang pagsasamahin sa isang kwarto sa loob ng tatlong araw. And then, we'll all see what happens. Pero dinaya namin noon yung kay Ronald at Meg. Puro Ronald at Meg ang mga pangalan na nakalagay sa lottery.

JIGS: (Tatawa) Ang sama ninyo!

JANINE: Kaya nga nakarma na ako e.

JIGS: So is our case, dinaya? O talagang lottery?

JANINE: (Teasing) Ano sa dalawa ang gusto mo?

JIGS: Feeling ko may nagtrip sakin sa barkada e.

JANINE: Excuse me po, dalawa tayong biktima dito. I don't see any reason kung bakit tayong dalawa ang sasadyaing biktima this year, unless may crush ka sakin na di ko alam at alam nila (tatawa).

JIGS: Baka ikaw (tatawa).

JANINE: The success rate of this tradition is 100% so far.

JIGS: I was here na the 2nd time. Si Chris at si Cia ang biktima.

JANINE: And last year were Rod and Kay. They're getting married kailan? Sa June yata.

JIGS: What do you expect? Ikukulong mo ang isang lalaki at isang babae sa isang kwarto for three days, imposibleng walang mangyari doon!

JANINE: That was exactly my point. (Ngingiti)

JIGS: E kung may madisgrasya?

JANINE: Anong disgrasya?

JIGS: Alam mo na ?yun!

Hahawiin ni Yumi ang divider nilang kumot.

JANINE: Ano? Sex? Pano kung magsex sila? Nakakatawa ka naman. Di mo masabi.

JIGS: Ang alin?

JANINE: Ang sex!

JIGS: Hah!

JANINE: Sige nga sabihin mo nga?

JIGS: Para kang tanga. Tumigil ka nga.

JANINE: Shet, Jigs. Graduate ka na totoy ka pa rin!

JIGS: Excuse me?

JANINE: Sabihin mo nga: "Sex! Sex! Sex! Sex!"

JIGS: Para kang bata, Yumi ha.

JANINE: You used to call me ate Yumi when you were in third year.

JIGS: Well, graduate na po ako, ate Yumi. Tahimik.

JIGS: Hmmm. I wonder if we're gonna last three days.

JANINE: (Teasing) Bakit? Ayaw mo sakin?

Di sasagot si Jigs.

JANINE We're gonna survive this one.

JIGS: What makes you so sure?

JANINE :No offense, Jigs. I honestly find you very attractive pero I've no time for this. Alam mo naman siguro na kaka..

JIGS: Same here.

JANINE: Same here what? Na you find me attractive o
you dont have time for this? (Matatawa)

Di sasagot si Jigs. Tahimik. Io-on ulit ni Yumi ang CD player at ipagpapatuloy ang zazen. Itatabi ni Jigs ang libro. Nawalan na siya ng ganang magbasa. Pupunta siya sa ref. Bubuksan niya ito.

JIGS: Hah! (Sarcastic) Perfect! Red Wine! How very conducive.

JANINE: May chips ba diyan?

JIGS: Sa awa ng Diyos, may tsibog naman. Papatayin ni Yumi ang CD player. Tatayo siya at kukuha ng chips sa ibabaw ng ref.

JANINE: Since we're gonna be stuck naman with each other for three days, might as well make the best out of it di ba? I-enjoy na lang natin.

JIGS: What do you mean?

JANINE: Get the wine, let's have a drink! 50 hours to go na lang and we're gonna be the first
failure of this tradition.

JIGS: Oo nga. (Kukunin ang wine. Maglalagay sa dalawang baso.) When they chose Cia and Chris, naiintindihan ko pa e. Lalo na sina Rod and Kay. Kung baga, tinulungan lang natin silang umamin sa isa't isa. Pero us...

JANINE: Weird ng barkada natin no?

JIGS: To our barkada and our weird traditions!

JANINE: To us, the first failure of this tradition! Magto-toast sila at iinom.

JIGS: Sige, ate Yumi. Let's make our stay here more interesting...

JANINE: What's with the ate?

JIGS: Fine... Bubuksan ni Yumi ang chips. Uupo sila pareho sa sahig para magkwentuhan.

JIGS: Let's play twenty questions.

JANINE: Sige! Ano yon?

JIGS: Each of us will have ten questions each. Tatanungin kita, tatanungin mo ako, mga gusto nating malaman sa isa't isa. Alternate tayo. Pero the thing here is, you can't ask the question that I already asked.

JANINE: That's pretty interesting.

JIGS: At bawal magsinungaling.

JANINE: Fair enough. Pero whatever is said inside this room remains in the room. Ok?

JIGS: Of course. You wanna start?

JANINE: No. I want to ask the last question.

(Ngingiti at kikindatan si Jigs)

JIGS: Smart move. Game. First question: Ano ang greatest frustration mo sa buhay?

JANINE: Nge. Ang korni naman ng tanong mo. Walang ka-challenge-challenge. Ask me something na mag-iisip naman ako.

JIGS: Simula pa lang e.

JANINE: Sige. Ano nga ba...?

JIGS: Akala ko ba walang ka-challenge-challenge?

JANINE: Wag kang maingay, nag-iisip ako...Im a frustrated ballet dancer.

JIGS :Talaga?

JANINE: I took lessons when I was six pero umayaw ako. Wala kasi akong disiplina e. Mas gusto kong makipaglaro sa mga kalaro ko. Pero I really enjoy watching ballet dancers. When I see them dance parati kong naiisip na sana, ako rin. There! Ang dali naman ng tanong mo. Walang thrill.

JIGS: Appetizer lang. Yari ka sakin mamaya.

YUMI: We'll see. Ako naman. Did you ever have doubts about your sexuality? I mean, kahit minsan ba, naisip mo na bakla ka?

JIGS: Never.

JANINE: Bilis ng sagot a.

JIGS: Coz I never entertained the idea.

JANINE : Homophobe ka ba?

JIGS: Alternate tayo sa tanungan, di ba?

YUMI: So, not once? Kahit konti? Kahit what if lang?

JIGS: Im straight, okay?

YUMI: Im not asking if you're gay or not. Im asking kung...

JIGS: Never nga.

YUMI: We all thought na you were gay. Well at least nung first few months mo sa tropa before you introduced your girlfriend to us.

JIGS: What?! You thought I was gay?!

YUMI: E pano kasi, masyado kang mabait. Ang pogi-pogi mo, pero parang allergic ka sa mga babae. Over ang pagiging gentleman mo. Too good to be true. You have a good body, it seems that you work out pero iniisip namin front mo lang yun. Kadalasan kasi front ng mga bakla ang pagiging maganda ng katawan nila at pagiging sporty...
Tatawa lang si Jigs.

YUMI :So we thought its either that or you were
planning to become a priest.

JIGS: What?!

YUMI: Well, you were always this goody-goody person. Pumupunta ka sa chapel. Nangungumpisal, nagsisimba...

JIGS: The way you said it, parang equivalent ang dalawa a.

YUMI: Of course not. I didn't mean that!

JIGS: I take my faith seriously. That doesnt make me gay!

YUMI: So you did want to become a priest...

JIGS: Hindi rin. Actually, I always wanted to raise a family...and be a father.

Tahimik.

YUMI: So you're not gay.

JIGS: No.

YUMI: You never...

JIGS :Ilang beses ka ba ipinanganak? Kulit mo e. It's my turn.

YUMI: Homophobe ka no?

JIGS: Hindi kaya!

YUMI: Whatever...

JIGS: Ako na, daya mo naman e.

YUMI: Okay, okay. Shoot me.

JIGS: How do you see yourself five years from now?

YUMI: You expect to win this game? Ang kokorni ng mga tanong mo e.

JIGS: The object of this game is not to win.

YUMI: E ano pa ba?

JIGS: To get to know the other person.

YUMI :Sure. Basta ako, I will win this game. Walang thrill ang isang game kung walang nananalo.

JIGS: Sagot.

YUMI: May time limit ba to? (Tatawa) Wine pa nga.

JIGS: Sabi nga nila: in vino veritas.

Magsasalin si Jigs ng wine.

YUMI: Masarap ang wine, ha? Saan kaya nabili ito? (Iinom) To answer your question, either maging entrepreneur ako, magsisimula ako ng sarili kong botique or bar, o kaya, magiging artista ako sa pelikula.

JIGS: Not bad.

YUMI: Pero mukhang malaboyung stint ko sa movies. Tough ang competition e. Saka mahina ang manager ko. Panay hosting at pictorials ang nakukuhang raket para sa akin. Papalitan ko na nga e. Pag nakaipon ako, baka magtayo na lang ako ng botique.

JIGS: (Magbibiro) Ayaw mo mag-bold?

YUMI: Yuck!

JIGS: Lahat ng gustong mag-artista doon dumadaan.

YUMI: May talent naman ako kahit papano a!

JIGS: Lahat naman ng bold star may talent a! Sa dibdib! (Tatawa)

YUMI: (Hahampasin ng unan si Jigs) Bastos ka talaga! Akala ko goody-goody ka..Hindi ko papatulan ang pagbobold kahit anong mangyari no! Kahit ganito ako, may respeto pa rin naman ako sa sarili ko.

JIGS: Ganito? Anong ganito?

Di sasagutin ni Yumi ang tanong.

YUMI: These producers think all the people want is sex, sex, sex! Kaya puro basura ang mga pelikula e. Wine pa nga!

JIGS: (Magsasalin ng wine) Bakit naman botique?

YUMI: Hoy madaya ka na ha? Hindi pa ako lasing. Ako nang magtatanong. Ang korni mo namang magtanong. Bigatan naman natin nang konti...Inom ka muna.

Iinom si Jigs. Magsasalin siya ng bago.

YUMI: Who was your first crush in the barkada? Tahimik.

YUMI: Haha! Bingo ka no? Bagal mo naman sumagot.

Iinumin ang wine. Magsasalin ng bago.

JIGS: Lalaki o babae?

Tatawa sila pareho.

YUMI: Dapat may time limit ito e.

Tahimik.

JIGS: Hirap naman ng tanong mo.

YUMI: Iyon nga ang maganda e. Para may thrill. As if naman ibo-broadcast ko sa barkada kung sino.

JIGS :Wine pa?

YUMI: Di mo pa sinasagot yung tanong ko, nagtatanong ka na!

Magsasalin ng wine si Jigs kay Yumi.

JIGS: Yung crush ko kasi...siyempre, sino pa ba? E di yung pinakamaganda sa barkada.

YUMI: cno nga?

JIGS: Yung literally na may dating. walang tanung-tanong. Yung kahit sinong tanungin mo sa tropa, objectively, siya ang isasagot.

YUMI: Jigs, twenty questions ang game natin. Hindi guessing game. C'mon man. Play your own game. Pano na kung truth or dare to e di pahirapan na. Dadalawa na nga lang tayo e.

JIGS: Yung commercial model.

Matitigilan si Yumi.

YUMI: Wine pa nga.

Magsasalin si Jigs.

Mag-iisip si Yumi. Iinom.

Biglang matatawa.

YUMI :(Tumatawa pa rin) Talaga?

JIGS: Sige, pagtawanan ba?

YUMI: You can say it to my face, I wont bite. Bakit hirap na hirap kang sabihin kung sino? Takot kang ma-reject? Parang tanong lang e...Wine pa nga!

JIGS: Okay, 1 point ka na...

YUMI: (Ngiti) Gee...thanks. Flattered naman ako. At kailan naman nangyari ito?

JIGS: Sorry, my turn to ask. (Ngingiti) Who is your crush in the barkada...NOW?

YUMI: E ginaya mo lang yung tanong ko e.

JIGS: Hinde no. May qualifier ako. Ang sabi ko, NOW. Ang tanong mo, first crush ko.

YUMI: Korni pa rin. Alam mo, kung basketball to, tambak ka na.

JIGS: Just answer the question.

YUMI: Siyempre wala. I told you, I don't have time for these stuff. Kakabreak ko lang di ba?

JIGS: Korni mo namang sumagot.

YUMI: E korni yung tanong e. Pero kung talagang-talagang kailangan kong sumagot...hmmm...teka...sino nga ba? Sino bang crush material sa barkada? Wala akong maisip e. Ikaw na lang.

JIGS: Yung seryoso naman.

YUMI: Seryoso ako. Ayaw mo yata e. Sige, iba na lang...

JIGS: E napipilitan ka lang e.

YUMI: Uy! Pano ba yan? MU na tayo? Crush mo ko, crush kita...yiheee (Tatawa).

JIGS: Dati pa yon no!

YUMI: Ay? Di mo na ko crush? Bakit, na turn-off ka? Ano namang ginawa ko? Tsk. Tsk.

JIGS: Is that your question na?

YUMI: Oy, hinde! Ito naman...di ba pwedeng mag-follow-up?

Iinom ng wine si Jigs.

YUMI: Fine. Here's a little juicy question: Describe your first kiss.

JIGS That's not even a question.

YUMI: Arte mo. O, How was your first kiss like?

Matatawa si Jigs.

JIGS: Wet.

YUMI: Yuck!

Magtatawanan sila.

JIGS: Alam mo, aksidente yung first kiss ko. Close kasi kami nung isa kong kaibigan. Pag naggu-goodbye ako sa kanya, parati ko siyang kini-kiss sa noo. E one time, sa gym habang nagpapahinga, nakaupo siya sa sahig. Tinatamad siyang tumayo. So bumaba ako nang konti para halikan siya sa noo kasi pauwi na ako. E siya naman, para maabot ko, medyo tumingala. E sakto, sa lips ko siya nahalikan. Pareho kaming nagulat. Pero di pa kami
naghiwalay agad. Weird nga ang feeling e. Parang may glue. Ayaw na namin maghiwalay pareho... Tawa pa rin si Yumi

YUMI: Awww. Ang sweet naman. Parang sa pelikula. Si Krissy ba to?

JIGS: Hindi. Hindi mo siya kilala.

YUMI: So what happened? Nagkatuluyan kayo?

JIGS: Nope.

YUMI: Ha?

JIGS: Ewan ko ba. Complicated kasi yung situation namin e. May boyfriend siya noon. Ako naman, takot pa sa isang relationship. Pero at least, na-discover namin na pareho pala kaming may gusto sa isa't isa. Pero hanggang doon na lang.

YUMI: What happened after?

JIGS: We talked about it. We both decided na it wont work. Tapos, bigla na lang, hindi na kami nagkikita. And then, I met you guys, iba na ang barkada ko.

YUMI: Nakakatuwa naman.

JIGS: Ikaw, pano yung first kiss mo?

YUMI: Ikaw ang nagturo sa akin ng game na ito di ba? Bakit ba lagi mong bini-break ang rules? Di mo na pwedeng tanungin yan!

JIGS: Tine-testing ko lang kung lasing ka na. (Iinom ng wine) Okay, naka-warm-up na ako: What was the naughtiest thing you ever did?

YUMI: Yan ang mga tanong! Ano bang ibig mong sabihin ng naughty?

JIGS: Bahala kang mag-define.

YUMI: Hmmm...marami e...(matatawa) baka maeskandalo ka.

JIGS: Kanina ayaw mo ng korni. Ngayong medyo exciting naman...

YUMI: Eto na...I had two boyfriends at the same time.

JIGS: (Nagulat) Hala.

YUMI: I was with Joel and Zach at the same time.

JIGS: Yikes. Alam ba ni Joel?

YUMI: Kaya nga kami naghiwalay nun e. Nahuli ako (matatawa).

JIGS: Ano namang pumasok sa kukote mo't ginawa mo yon, aber?

YUMI: Nag-eexperiment lang ako. E sa type ko sila pareho e. Anong magagawa ko? Saka para may thrill. Alam mo yon? Yung patago kang nakikipag-date sa isa para di mahuli. Everyday pa akong nakakalibre, kasi, alternate sila! (Tatawa) Akala nyo kayo lang mga lalaki ang pwedeng gumawa non?

JIGS: How can you love two guys at the same time?

YUMI: Who said something about love? Walang kinalaman ang love dun. I was...having fun!

JIGS: Nainlove ka na ba, ever?

YUMI :Nakakailang tanong ka na? It's my turn.

JIGS: Don't you want to answer the question anyway?

YUMI: My turn!

JIGS: Kulang ka pa sa wine. (Tatawa) Ubos na ang unang wine bottle. Kukuha si Jigs ng isa pa sa ref.

JIGS: Ang bilis nating uminom a.

YUMI: Are you still a virgin?

JIGS: Whoa! Where did that come from?

YUMI: That's my fourth question.

JIGS: (Magsasalin ng wine sa mga baso). Ano sa tingin mo?

Ngingiti si Jigs. Tititigan lang siya ni Yumi.

YUMI: Don't tell me, wala pang nangyayari sa inyo ni Krissy hanggang ngayon? Ilang taon na ba kayo?

JIGS: Mag-tu-two years na sana next week.

YUMI: So virgin ka pa? I don't believe it!

JIGS: Mukha ba akong tarantado?

YUMI: Mukha kang nagpapaiyak ng babae e.

JIGS: Insulto ba yon?

YUMI: Compliment yon, tanga.

JIGS :Ah, okay. Thanks.

YUMI: Pero, you mean, you never felt the urge to do it?

JIGS: Alin? Sex?

YUMI :Wow! Nasabi rin niya!

JIGS: Of course I always feel it. Natural lang yon sa tao no? Nasa iyo na lang yan kung anong gagawin mo sa urge na yon.

YUMI: E natural naman pala e. Bakit mo pinipigilan? I mean, pag naiihi ka, iihi ka. Pag nagugutom ka, kakain ka. Pareho lang yon, di ba?

JIGS: Pag naiihi ka, iihi ka dahil kailangan mong umihi. At hindi ka iihi kahit saan. Pupunta ka sa banyo. Pag nagugutom ka, kakain ka dahil kailangan. At hindi mo kinakain ang lahat ng pagkain na ihain sa iyo. Pag di ka gutom, di ka kakain. Pag di mo gusto yung pagkain, di mo gagalawin. Ang aso, pag may nakitang pagkain diyan, walang tanung-tanong. Lalamon yan.

YUMI: And sex is the same?

JIGS: Lahat ng bagay, nilalagay sa lugar. May context. At least, yun ang nagpaiba sa atin sa aso.

YUMI: Grabe ka namang magsalita. Para mo na ring sinabing lahat ng nakikipagsex, aso ah!

JIGS: Sinasabi ko lang, pag wala sa tamang konteksto, mali.

YUMI: And what is that context?

JIGS: Matanda na tayo. Ayokong maging preachy. Alam na natin yan.

Tahimik.

JIGS :Kaso, kahit alam na natin, minsan di pa rin natin ginagawa.

Tahimik.

JIGS: Masarap e. Sino bang ayaw nun?

Tahimik.

YUMI: (Medyo nairita) So feeling mo santo ka at dapat kang i-congratulate for being a virgin!

JIGS: Sinasabi ko lang ang pinaniniwalaan ko. Ineexplain ko lang kung bakit di ko ginagawa. May kanya-kanya tayong dahilan. Di ko pinipilit kahit kanino ang mga paniniwala ko...No need to get so cross about it, Yumi.

Tahimik.

JIGS :Its not about being a virgin or not. Its about putting things into their proper places.

YUMI :Im not arguing with you.

JIGS: Me neither. Im just answering your questions.

Matagal na katahimikan.

Ngingiti si Jigs. Titignan niya si Yumi na medyo nairita sa nakaraang train of conversation nila. Magsasalin siya ng wine para kay Yumi.

JIGS: Nasobrahan ka na yata sa wine e. (Tatawa) You still wanna go on with the game? Nine pa lang tayo, eleven more to go. (Ngingiti)

YUMI: Shoot me.

JIGS: Who was your first lay?

YUMI: (Hahampasin ng unan si Jigs) Ang bastos mo talaga! So inaassume mo na hindi na ako virgin?

JIGS: E sabi mo kasi, walang thrill ang game pag walang nananalo e. So I guess Im winning. Saka wala naman akong inimply na ganun a! Im just hitting two birds with one stone. Kasi kung virgin ka, e di simple lang ang sagot: wala. Kung hindi naman, e di sino?

YUMI :Ang daya mo.

JIGS: Akala ko ba ayaw mo ng korning tanong.

YUMI :You think I'll answer that after giving your sermon, Father Jigs?

JIGS: Ano ka ba? Inexplain ko lang yung personal reasons ko. Kung ano man ang sa iyo, I'll respect them as well as I know you respect mine. I'm no saint. I'm just trying to get to know you better.

(Ngingiti)

YUMI: How do you do that?

JIGS: Alin?

YUMI :I should have walked out on you kanina pa pero the way you say things..parang bumabaliktad sa'yo...makes you more...charming. Kung ibang tao ka siguro, di na kita kakausapin.

JIGS: You cant walk out. We're locked here for three days except for meals.

YUMI: So Im forced to like you para di masira ang vacation ko. (Ngingiti)

JIGS: You don't have to answer my question if you don't want.

YUMI: I guess I'll be honest with you as you were honest with me...

Tahimik. Iinom ng wine si Yumi.

YUMI: Di mo siya kilala. His name was Robert. He was my first boyfriend. It was Senior Prom Night. Alam mo na...typical senior prom story. Everyone wants to lose it on prom night. Everyone thinks na pag prom night, it was something special. We went out sa hall nang maaga. We made out sa kotse niya. One thing led to the other. Tapos,
yun...yun na. We went back just in time for the awarding of the prom queen. Guess what, I won pa.

(Mahinang tawa)

JIGS: What was it like?

YUMI: Now that I look back, it isnt as special as I thought it was. Pero it was different then. Back then, we were just led by our passions. Alam mo yon? Andun ka na. Hormones raging wild. Passions and Ideals are confused. Akala mo love, yun pala, curious ka lang pala. Akala mo yun na yon. Akala mo you are in-love at lahat ng gawin mo tama. Lahat ng gawin mo perfect. Everything was magical...well, almost.

JIGS: Almost...?

YUMI: Sa next question mo na yan. Ako na.

JIGS: (Pabiro) Wine pa? Kulang ka pa yata e.

YUMI: Nilalasing mo ko no? May balak ka sakin no?

(Tatawa)

JIGS: Is that your question? Sasagutin ko na.

(Tatawa)

YUMI: Engot. Hindi yon. Here's something na curious lang ako. Kasi I've been hearing things...saka you've hinted on it na rin kanina...Are you still with Krissy?

JIGS: Hindi na.

YUMI: Since when?

JIGS :Two, maybe three weeks ago?

YUMI: Sinong nakipag-break?

JIGS: Pareho kami.

YUMI: Why?

JIGS: Maraming dahilan, actually. Naisip na lang namin na it won't work. Isa na don, magkaiba kami ng gustong mangyari sa buhay. Magkaiba kami ng mga pinaniniwalaan.

YUMI: Like what?

JIGS: Marami.

YUMI :At ngayon mo lang nalaman iyon after two years with her?

JIGS: People change, Yumi.

Tahimik.

JIGS: Right before graduation, she asked me to move in with her.

YUMI: Talaga?

JIGS: Sabi niya, doon na naman din daw papunta ang relasyon namin. Might as well practice na raw for the real thing. Tutal, she's working na naman, ako naman bagong graduate, we should try out na raw living together if it'll work for us.

YUMI: Natakot ka sa arrangement?

JIGS: Hindi naman sa natakot. If you love someone, ano pang ikakatakot mo, di ba?

YUMI: E bakit umayaw ka?

JIGS: It's just that, it's not my thing.

YUMI: Sabi na nga ba e, bakla ka no? Sinasayang mo ang opportunities! (Matatawa)

JIGS: Hindi ako oportunista. At lalong hindi ako bakla.

YUMI :Fine.

JIGS: Naisip ko lang na hindi pa pala ako handa sa mga ganitong bagay. Wala pa sa isip ko ang ganon. Na-shock siguro ako sa reality na iyon na nga ang next step sa relationship namin. I mean, two years of being together and knowing each other, we're practically ready to get married, if you know what I mean. Pero I realized, I'm not
ready for any of these. Narealize ko how immature I am. Na iba yung ideals ko two years ago sa ideals ko ngayon. I need to mature some more to get into this thing, 'I mean, getting married. Diyos ko, ilang taon lang ba ako...

YUMI: Maturity has nothing to do with age.

JIGS: But it has a lot to do with time.

Tahimik.

JIGS :So I thought, bakit kailangan ng practice mode? Ibig sabihin, pag sumablay kami, split na kami? Live like a couple minus the commitment? Pano pag nawala na yung magic? Goodbye na? Iinom ng wine si Jigs.

JIGS: Kung kasal na, kasal na. Wala nang practice. I think that's the real cowardice. Yung i-try muna natin kung it will work kasi takot kayo na baka hindi maging successful ang outcome. Saan na napunta ang excitement ng buhay? Kaya nga kayo in-love, para sabay kayong humarap sa totoong buhay, sa hirap at ginahawa, di ba? (Matatawa) Hindi
yung pagpapraktisan muna ninyo para siguradong ginhawa lang.

Magkikibit-balikat lang si Jigs.

YUMI: Are you always like that?

JIGS: Like what?

YUMI: So cerebral in everything. Kahit pagdating sa relationships.

JIGS: Life is too precious para lang daanin sa trial and error.

Ngingiti si Jigs. Tahimik.

YUMI: So, No hard feelings?

JIGS: Friends pa rin kami. She still calls me up nga sa bahay e.

YUMI: That's nice.

JIGS: Kayo, bakit kayo nagbreak ni Carlo?

YUMI: That's your sixth na ha?

JIGS: Sure.

YUMI: Alam mo, ironic para sa akin yung break-up namin ni Carlo. And the funny thing was, it was about...sex. Uy, sa atin lang ito ha?

JIGS: Of course.

YUMI: Kasi nga, I was looking for that magic nga di ba? I wanted to be in a relationship na special naman. So of all the boyfriends I had, sa kanya lang ako walang sexual relationship. As in nag-aabstain talaga ako. Kasi parang naisip ko, para magkaroon naman ng meaning yung "making love" di ba? Parang, dapat di mo parating ginagawa, at ginagawa mo lang when you are sincere with yourself and with your partner. So I was investing muna emotionally. And I was actually starting to care about him. Yung, hindi ko na iniisip yung sarili ko. Yung siya lang ang inaalala ko. Akala ko perfect na...

JIGS: Anong nangyari?

YUMI: Patunayan ko raw na mahal ko siya. Magbigay daw ako ng proof. Pagbigyan ko raw siya. Sabi ko sa kanya, hindi pa ba sapat na proof yon? Na Im saving myself for that right moment, that special moment between us? Alam mong ginawa? Nilayasan ako!

JIGS: You deserve someone better.

YUMI: Talaga!

YUMI: Isipin mo, kung kelan naman I grew tired of meaningless sex, when Im looking for the real thing, saka naman mawawala. Ang ironic ng buhay no?

JIGS: That's the way we must learn.

YUMI: Alam mo, kung tutuusin, never ko pang na-experience yung tunay na mag make-love. And I had to go all through those relationships para lang ma-realize yun. At least, ngayon, alam ko na ang hinahanap ko.

Iinom ng wine.

YUMI: Ikaw ba, importante sa¹yo na virgin ang
mapapangasawa mo? How do you see virginity ba?

JIGS: Alam mo, di ko pa napag-isipan yan? Pero
now that you've mentioned it...It doesn't matter
kung virgin ang mapangasawa ko o hindi. Of course
I value virginity a lot. I treat it as the only
real gift I could give to my wife to be. Imaginin
mo na lang di ba, kung wife ko ang una ko. It's
like the perfect wedding gift I could give to
her. Pero kung siya hindi na virgin, I wouldn't
care. As long as mahal ko siya. Kasi I don't
expect her to give me the same gift. I don't do
something because I expect people to do the same
to me. Ibigay niya sa akin ang sarili niya nang
buong-buo, sapat na sa akin yon. Masaya na ako
sa ganoon.

YUMI: (Mapapangiti si Yumi.) You know, that's the
nicest thing I ever heard from a guy. That's why
I always enjoy talking to you. You always say the
nicest things.

JIGS: Wow. Salamat. E ikaw, is making love to you
equal to love?


YUMI: I always took sex and love as opposite
ideas. I mean, after the first time na...you
know...sa Senior prom. Kasi afterwards, we broke
up na ni Robert. Tapos naisip ko, yun na ba yung
love? Baka hindi love yung naramdaman ko. Baka
napagkamalan ko lang siyang love. I was just
after the pleasure of intimacy. And then I felt
empty. So empty. That's why I wanted to change. I
wanted to believe in "making love." And Im still
looking for it. Yung magic. Yung feeling mo, tao
ka pala. I never felt that kahit isang beses. Men
have penetrated my body but never my soul. And I
wanted that. I wanted someone to touch my soul.
To "make love" to my soul through my body. Pero
siguro, naging numb na ko sa dami ng relasyong
pinagdaanan ko. Hindi ko alam kung mararanasan ko
pa iyon. That's why I envy you.

Tahimik.

YUMI: Sa tingin mo may pag-asa pa ako?

JIGS: You still have your soul...(Ngingiti)

Tahimik.

YUMI: With whom would you want to experience it?

JIGS: Of course, sa asawa ko.

YUMI: I mean, someone in particular. Take it as my seventh question. So give a name.

JIGS: A name? Hindi ko alam. Basta kung sino ang magiging asawa ko. Tahimik. Magkikibit-balikat si Yumi. Iinom ng wine.

JIGS: Well, I always thought na it was Krissy. And then, it was just gone. Of course I loved her. And I still do. Pero the magic was just gone after we both found out na magkaiba kami ng mga prinsipyo sa buhay. Tahimik.

JIGS: My turn? YUMI: Shoot me.

JIGS ;Tell me something...a secret. Yung wala kahit isang nakakaalam. Matagal na katahimikan. JIGS: You trust me naman di ba?

YUMI: Well, you've earned it, alright.

JIGS: Saka wala akong tinatago sayo. Sinagot ko lahat ng tanong mo as honestly as I could. (Ngingiti)

YUMI: I uhm...

JIGS: Yes...?

YUMI: I need more wine. Magsasalin si Jigs ng wine.

JIGS: Take your time. We have less than fifty hours to go. Iinom ng wine si Yumi.

YUMI: I"ll tell you something no one in the world knows except one other person. And that person probably forgot all about me already.

JIGS: (Pabiro) What? You had sex with a stranger?

YUMI: Ano ka ba? JIGS: Biro lang. Seryoso na.
YUMI :Promise ha? Hindi ito lalabas. JIGS: Promise.
YUMI: If this goes out, I will hunt you kahit sa libingan mo. Huhukayin kita at papatayin kita ulit.

JIGS: Mamatay man ako ngayon.

YUMI: Okay...(Pause) I...I was with Joel then... (Magiging mas seryoso ang tono niya) ...and Zach. I wasn't really with Zach, I was just going out with him pag wala si Joel, alam mo na...making out and stuff...Well, anyway, I was kinda serious din naman with Joel that time. Joel and I were...you know...doing it. And...

JIGS: And...? YUMI :Uhm...I...uhm...I got pregnant.
JIGS: What? Tahimik. Iinom ng wine si Yumi.

YUMI: I uhm...shit. Hindi ko naman talaga ginusto e. Uhm...Two months akong delayed...then I took that test. I found out na buntis nga ako...and Joel found out about Zach (maluha-luha na) and I didn't know what to say, you know? Maniniwala ba naman sa akin si Joel na naaliw lang ako kay Zach? Na I didn't really love him? Na wala lang iyon? And so he broke up with me and..I..uhm...I was afraid and uhm... (Magsisimula siyang magbreak-down)

JIGS: It's okay...

YUMI: I uhm...hindi ko na alam ang gagawin ko, Joel left me. I wanted to tell him about the baby to make him come back but I don't think he'd believe me after the thing with Zach...and...my parents are gonna kill me if...shit. (iiyak)

JIGS: (lalapit kay Yumi para i-console ito) Ssshhh...you don't have to tell me this if it upsets you...

YUMI: And so I went to a clinic...(hahagulgol) I didn't mean to, Jigs. I wasn't myself then. And I felt so afraid. So alone...

JIGS: Tahan na. Ssshhh... Iiyak lang si Yumi kay Jigs. Yayakapin ni Jigs si Yumi. JIGS: Alam ba to ni Joel?

YUMI How can I tell him? The only other person na nakakaalam ay yung duktor sa clinic. God... (iiyak) Oh God...

JIGS: It's alright... Hihimasin ni Jigs ang likod ni Yumi. Patatahanin niya ito. Matagal silang nakaganito lang. Matagal na katahimikan.

YUMI: Can you get me my yosi? Tatayo si Jigs. Pupunta sa may side table sa tabi ng kama. Kukunin ang Yosi ni Yumi. Magsisindi siya ng isa at iaabot kay Yumi.

YUMI: Thanks... Matagal na katahimikan.
YUMI :If we were...if we were the last two people on earth, would you consider doing it with me?

JIGS: Doing what?

YUMI: Alam mo na...

JIGS: Alin? (Teasing ngingiti)

YUMI: Gago mo. (Ngingiti) JIGS Ngumiti rin.
YUMI: So? Would you? JIGS: Alin nga? Di mo masabi no? Bakit di mo masabi? (Pagtatawanan si Yumi) Sabihin mo nga: Sex! Sex! Sex! Sex!
YUMI: Shut up nga!

JIGS: That's your eight na, ha?

YUMI: I lost count. Answer it.

JIGS: Why not? Hihithit ng yosi si Yumi. Tahimik. Sasandal si Yumi sa balikat ni Jigs.
JIGS: If you could be something else, what would you be?

YUMI: I dunno...maybe a violin...yeah. Violin siguro.

JIGS Bakit?

YUMI: I always saw the relationship of a violin and its player as very intimate. Pag tumutugtog ang violinist, ang nakikita ko at naririnig ko, he strokes the soul of the instrument and the instrument penetrates the soul of the player. Para silang nagmi-make love. Di ba? Very sexy, very intimate, very sublime. Di ba? Pareho silang sincere sa isa't isa. Dahil kung hindi sila sincere, walang music na mabubuo. The violin surrenders her body to her player, her whole body and her whole soul, in full trust and sincerity. Di ba, compared to the sound of the other instruments, ang tunog ng violin parang isang naked woman? A naked woman in surrender? I want to be a violin. I want to be stroked in the soul. I want to make sincere music. I want to experience the sound of love. Tahimik.

JIGS :Lalim nun ah. (Ngingiti)

YUMI: Pano mo malalamang in-love ka na?

JIGS: Paano? I don't think there's a formula to that. Basta malalaman mo na lang. I mean, ilang beses lang ba nangyari sa akin yon? I'd like to believe na yun na nga yon...yung kay Krissy...

YUMI: Kwento mo nga...paano mo narealize dati na mahal mo nga si Krissy?

JIGS :Alam mo nakakatawa...korni actually. Babalik na naman ako sa pagiging korni nito e. Di ba ayaw mo sa korni.

YUMI: Sige na. Hindi na kita aasarin.

JIGS: I heard bells. YUMI: Ano?
JIGS: Seryoso. Bigla na lang, habang nag-uusap kami, may narinig na lang akong bells, tapos music. Ewan ko kung iniimagine ko lang yon pero yun ang nangyari. Nakakatawa nga e. Parang kanta ng Beatles.

YUMI: Seryoso ka ba?

JIGS: O baka naman nagkataon noong oras na yon, may nagkakantahan sa kung saan sa school. Basta may narinig akong bells. Tapos napangiti ako. Pagtingin ko sa mata niya, iba na ang nakikita ko. Hindi ko na siya nakita as kabarkada lang. Biglang parang may magic. Hindi ko ma-explain. Baduy pero ganun. Tapos I just seized the moment. Umamin ako. A week later, kami na.

YUMI: Korni nga. (Matatawa)

JIGS: Korni talagang pakinggan. Pero pag nandun ka na. Pag naranasan mo na, feeling mo, hindi na korni. Ngingiti si Yumi. Tahimik.

YUMI: Alam mo, may times na parang tunog violin ang boses mo. O lasing lang ako? Tahimik.

JIGS: Im into my last question. Iaangat ni Yumi ang ulo niya.

YUMI: Shoot me. Better make it good.

JIGS: If you were again to be the next victim of this tradition, if you were to be locked up in this room again...who would you want the next guy to be?

YUMI: (Mag-iisip) I want someone whom I could talk to... Yung makukwentuhan ko ng mga sikreto ko. Yung may sense makipag-usap. Yung may laman. The violin player who'd stroke my strings...not even. Yung mapapatunog niya ang strings ko without even touching them. (Tahimik) Lumuluwag na ang dila ko...kung anu-ano na ang nasasabi ko. (Ngingiti) Tititigan lang ni Jigs si Yumi. Tahimik.

YUMI: Siyempre yung masarap kausap. Tahimik. Hindi makatingin si Yumi.
YUMI: Yung kahit habambuhay wala kaming gawin kundi mag-usap... I think it's better than making love. Mapapatingin si Yumi kay Jigs.
YUMI: Gosh I want to kiss you so badly. Matitigilan siya.
YUMI: I can't believe I just said that. Tahimik. Titignan niya ulit si Jigs.
YUMI: Don't you want to kiss me? Pause. Titignan siya ni Jigs sa mata.

JIGS: Is that your last question? (Ngingiti si Jigs)

YUMI: Yes. DILIM.

I'm giving you a piece of my heart, not because you deserve it but because it already belong to you... It might not be enough, it might be too small, but this piece of my heart could probably be my all..